Val

One yes can change everything.

My goal on this day of photographing strangers was to take photos of 5 awesome humans. After almost 2 hours of walking around in a new city in a different country, with no photos of strangers, I was ready to give up.

Things didn’t go as I had hoped. I was stuck. And the longer I was stuck, the more I convinced myself to give up.

I let so many awesome strangers walk right by me. I was imagining people rejecting me without even speaking to them. I convinced myself they would say no and watched dozens and dozens of people walk away.

The moment I was about to quit, I sat down on a bench and heard a voice whisper:

“Most people quit right before something interesting is about to happen. Shoot the damn ball, Darius.”

Then I looked up and saw this super interesting dude, who would be my first yes in this new city.

The rest of the day I spiralled into a winning streak. I felt like I was flying.

This isn’t groundbreaking; it’s just basic math. If there are zero attempts, there are zero failures.

You can’t miss a basketball shot if you never shoot.

Let alone win a game. Or have fun playing.

I was even ready for more people to say no. And that felt totally okay. Shooting and missing are just a part of the game.

This video actually starts with a gem of a human at the counter saying no thanks, then suggesting I photograph her co-worker and friend Val.

I needed that NO to bring me one step closer to my next YES.

In this example I was only seconds away.

Sometimes it’s not that immediate. But what if there’s a yes out there waiting for you?

Are you willing to shoot your shot and let go of the damn ball?

Love,

D

PS: If you want to see the behind the scenes video of me approaching Val and taking these photos, check out my Instagram or my TikTok.